Three Reasons the Old Way May Not Be the Best Way – Self Improvement Techniques
By Administrator on Aug 16, 2010 in Self Improvement
Frequently I help clients to learn about four different ways of approaching life and how each of these either helps the individual or slows their progress. Following are summaries of each of these.
1. PASSIVE
Imagine that your life is like a football field. There aren’t any boundaries to protect the turf which takes a beating as players and fans run onto it after the game. Those individuals who are passive, usually either don’t know their personal needs or don’t have skills to ensure that they are met. They allow other people to run all over them and tend to feel good about themselves only when there is peace in their environment or other people are happy. A low self-image can keep them trapped in the idea that they are less important than others or not deserving. Often they “settle” or suffer in silence while their needs are unmet.
2. The old way is no longer in common practice.
A friend commented one day how upset she was that her nieces and nephews never call her. She continued with accusations of how thoughtless they were after all that she had done for them when they were growing up.
She confessed that when she complained to them they told her that if she had a computer they would email or a cell phone they would text her, but that they seldom make phone calls.
Her unwillingness to recognize that modern communication has changed has kept her from more frequent contact with her relatives.
3. The old way has been replaced with a more efficient and safer version.
When I was preparing to travel to China the teller at my credit union advised me that merchants around the world preferred their own currency to traveler’s checks.
So, armed only with my debit card and credit cards, I went on my trip. Just as the teller suggested, I got cash from the hotel’s ATM machine and was well prepared for day trips and shopping.
One traveler who was part of our tour group, however, had insisted on buying traveler’s checks. She was almost in tears when the hotel front desk manager told her that they wouldn’t take her traveler’s check. Even though she signed it in front of them they insisted that the signatures looked different.
Many years ago when newspaper presses were computerized, some employees unwilling to learn to operate the new presses found themselves without jobs. If you’re on any job these days computer use is no longer optional, it’s part of the requisite skills.
